Notes on Truly Rich Club’s Power Talk: Find Your Emotional Why

22 Jan

Note:  This is the first installment on Truly Rich Club’s PowerTalks

Find Your Emotional Why: Recalibrate what you’re willing to accept

Opening Prayer:

Novena to God’s Love
Today I receive all of God’s love for me
Today I open myself to the unbounded, limitless, overflowing abundance of God’s universe
Today I open myself to Your blessings, healing and miracles
Today I open myself to God’s word so that I become more like Jesus everyday
Today I proclaim that I’m God’s beloved, I’m God’s powerful champion,
And because I am blessed, I will bless the world in Jesus’ name.

Readings:

  • Matthew 7:7-11  Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be open to you.  For every one who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks the door will be opened.  Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?  Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?  If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
  • Psalms 35:27  Let the Lord be magnified, who has a pleasure in the prosperity of His servant.

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What is an emotional why?

To illustrate, Brother Bo told this story:

There was a couple who went to a doctor to find out the results of the various laboratory and diagnostic tests done on the husband.  The doctor asked if he could talk to the wife alone.  For her husband to get well in one year, the wife was told by the doctor to stop giving him stress.   To stop nagging him, to not fight with him, to pamper him and to treat him like a king.  When they finished talking, the wife went to her husband.  The husband then asked what the doctor said and the wife replied: “You’re going to die. There’s no hope for you anymore.”

The wife is not willing to change because she has not found an emotional why.

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God has given you the power to change anything in your life.

Question:  Why do people fail to achieve their dreams?
One Reason:  Because they have not discovered their Emotional Why.

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Fact of human life:

We make decisions based on our emotions, not based on logic.  But when we make our decisions based on emotions, later on we  justify them based on logic.

To illustrate, Brother Bo told this story:

A guy approached him saying that he can’t stop smoking no matter what he did.  Brother Bo asked him if he has a child.  The guy said he has a daughter.  He then told the guy to imagine that a man was holding his daughter, pointing a gun to her head and threatening to shoot her if he did not stop smoking.  Will the guy then stop smoking?  The guy said yes.

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If you have an emotional why, you can change anything in your life.

Imagine you are earning Php10,000 a month.  Then your daughter got sick and has to take medicine worth Php50,000 a month to get well.  Will you do everything possible to earn the Php50,000?

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Another word for emotional why is hunger One must have a hunger behind a dream or a goal.  Hunger serves as the legs for a dream or goal to stand.

A man approached Bo.  He used to be very poor but is now very wealthy.  He is worried for his children who grew up having everything they need.  He realizes that his children do not have hunger.

Brother Bo told parents who got kids to not rob them of hunger.   Let your children go through hunger in some form.  Find a way for your children to still have hunger while growing up.

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Another term for emotional why is deepest desire.  Brother Bo believes that God planted within us our deepest desires.

He then proceeded to share his journey on why he changed his financial life.  There were three things:

1.  Emotional why related to 1 Timothy 5:8  If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

At 30 years old, he was broke and a single missionary.  He didn’t think of money.  He wasn’t bothered one bit.  It was okay for him to get hungry.  He didn’t care if he had to live at the sidewalk.

When he got married at 32, he began to have an emotional why.  He can’t face the thought of his family getting hungry.  That was when things began to change.

2.  Emotional why related to Ecclesiastes 5:19  Moreover, when God gives any man wealth and possessions, and enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work this is a gift of God

Two parts of an emotional why  Frustration and Fantasy

To illustrate, Brother Bo told two frustrating situations in his life when he was still single:

When he got hungry, he would open his wallet and count his money first before entering a fast-food chain.  If he has enough money, he would go inside and eat.  But sometimes, he would close his wallet and walk away.

He also experienced not having enough money to pay for a bill at a restaurant.  He did the most embarrassing thing and asked his girlfriend if she had money with her.  He was so ashamed and told himself that it will never happen to him again.

His fantasy is to go to any restaurant, anytime he wants, and order anything from the menu without looking at the price.

He then said that if you want to change your financial life, focus on your fantasy.  Start dreaming, believing.

3.  Emotional why related to 1 Timothy 6:18  Command them (the rich) to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share.

Being in ministry, he is often confronted by the needs of people.  Sometimes, he just wants to pull out his wallet and help.

Frustration.  During meetings with his team of leaders, he would come up with a new ministry project.  Everyone would get excited but the accountant would tell him that there was no money.  He had to wait for months or years to have the money to start the project.

Fantasy. To personally finance the expenses of a new project during the first six months of operation.

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Ask yourself: What is your emotional why?  What are your frustrations and fantasies?

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Recalibrate what you think is possible
Recalibrate what you’re willing to accept

To illustrate, Brother Bo told this story:

A man approached him about his problem with his finances.  He was currently earning Php10,000.  When asked how much he wants to earn, he says Php100,000.  But when he reached Php20,000, he got stuck there.

He believes he can earn Php100,000.  But he was satisfied with Php20,000 and was happy and willing to settle with it.  Because at Php20,000, he didn’t have any hunger anymore.  His goal of earning Php100,000 did not have an emotional why.  He was hungry at Php10,000 and was not hungry at Php20,000 anymore.  He had no drive or passion for earning Php100,000.

Brother Bo’s explanation for this: Level of acceptance is more powerful than level of possibility.  An emotional why is attached to and defines our levels of acceptance.  We have to have an emotional why for our dreams.  An emotional why so great or a reason behind our dreams that is enough to propel us towards achieving those dreams.

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Final Words:

Wealth is not property or money.  It is love, relationship, service, and God.  Money is merely a servant of real wealth.

If you’re a smoker and wants to quit, imagine playing with you’re grandchildren because you are strong and healthy enough.

God has given you the power to achieve anything.  Make that decision.

From zero knowledge about savings and investing,  Brother Bo says he learned about finances because of his emotional why.

Lastly, he says: I want you to become wealthy in the real sense of the word, where money serves the important things in your life.

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